Note: this piece first appeared in the January 2008 issue of Clark Wellness ForkBytes.

A funny thing has happened to me over the past couple of months. As 2007 started winding down, I began setting goals and making plans for 2008. Like many other Americans, I made countless lists and plans, and I expected that, at the stroke of midnight on January 1, all my plans would magically come to fruition. I would wake up the next morning refreshed from my 8 to 9 hours of sleep, float into a brief meditation followed by yoga practice, and begin my workday with my wholesome, organic lunch waiting for me in the refrigerator.

Instead, I got the flu.

I rarely get sick, but every year around the holidays and New Year’s, I usually come down with something. I always joke (with some seriousness!) that it’s my body’s way of forcing me not to do too much during this traditionally very busy time. This year’s illness was so miserable that I was barely able to get out of bed for a week, much less enjoy the rigorous schedule I had planned out for myself for 2008.

So here we are, already into the second week of the year, and I’ve started to feel behind. What about my lists?! How will the mountain of projects I’ve dreamed up for myself ever become manageable when I’ve lost a whole week???

Hopefully you did not suffer with the flu last week, but even without a dramatic illness, many people (self included) seem to become derailed every January. We make great plans, but life marches on, interrupting our ability to execute those plans.

Whether or not you made a formal New Year’s Resolution list, you probably have a few ideas about things you’d like to achieve over the next 12 months. I want to encourage you to evaluate those plans with a whole new framework: beginning where you are.

The great news about all goals and plans is that you don’t have to wait for another New Year’s Day to start working on yourself and your life. You can start right now, wherever you are! As I dive into all the stuff that I need and want to do this year, I’m working hard at practicing patience with myself and realism about my own abilities. I don’t have to be Superwoman, and neither do you. The journey and the path are much more important than the pace.

With that principle in mind, I hope that you will take this post as an opportunity to review your current goals and plans. The second week of the new year is a great time to evaluate where you are now and begin there with whatever you want to accomplish. One tool I love to use when working on goals for myself and for my clients is the idea of “Nourishing the Four Selves.” Check out my tips for using this great tool.

Note: this article first appeared in the January 2008 issue of Clark Wellness ForkBytes.

The Four Selves is a useful principle for ensuring you are practicing great self-care. Check in with yourself four times, concentrating each time on one of the categories below.

The Physical Self includes:

  • food: eating a clean, natural, high-quality diet appropriate for your bio-individuality and lifestyle
  • movement: regular participation in a body-affirming movement or exercise program you enjoy
  • massage/bodywork: bodywork is helpful for stimulating immunity and feeling connected to the body
  • sleep/rest: ensuring appropriate restful sleep and adequate down time

The Mental Self includes:

  • occupation: finding a career or occupation that challenges your mind
  • activities that provide mental and intellectual stimulation
  • stress management

The Emotional Self includes:

  • relationships: romantic, family, friends, and colleagues
  • processing feelings through conversations, writing, etc.

The Spiritual Self includes:

  • anything that connects you to your spirit: deep breaths, spending time in nature, quiet time, etc.
  • creativity: self-expression, artistic endeavors, journaling

Try evaluating each area to see where you are now. How are you doing emotionally? What’s going on spiritually for you? Are you feeling physically and mentally nourished? Write down a few words, thoughts, or sentences that express where you are with each area today.

Now, beginning from that point, what is one small step you can take in each area to ensure better nourishment? Be creative and think tiny. What small, manageable steps can you take to ensure each of your Four Selves is happy, healthy, and thriving? Use action-oriented language to verbalize your steps (for example, “schedule aromatherapy bubble baths on Tuesday and Friday evenings” is clearer and more directive than “manage stress”). Then… do it!

Note: this piece first appeared in the August 2005 issue of Clark Wellness ForkBytes.

Do you remember the story of the golden goose? This is the fable of the poor farmer who was amazed to discover that his goose had laid a golden egg. To his further amazement, the goose continued to lay golden eggs, and the man grew richer and richer. Unfortunately, he also grew greedier and greedier, and one day, in his impatience, he decided to kill the goose to remove all the eggs at once. Of course, that plan backfired, and the man and his magical goose were both ruined.

After the last gasp of vacation on Labor Day, September signifies that it’s time to get back to the “grind” of normal life—back to school, back to hard work. It’s time to stop goofing off and get down to business. This is a natural swing of the pendulum after a few months of relaxation, but it’s important to remember that the products of your hard work are like golden eggs, and you are like the goose. You require (and deserve!) lots of care to be able to do the things you do in your life.

In a recent lecture on self-compassion, I spoke about four “levels” of self-care that I’d like to share now with you.

PHYSICAL This area refers to the care and feeding of your physical body. Getting appropriate food, exercise, and sleep are all essential for keeping your body healthy and happy.

MENTAL This area refers to the care and feeding of your brain. The brain craves challenges and problems to solve. Are you being challenged—in both your workday and in your free time?

EMOTIONAL This area refers to the care and feeding of your heart. Are you in supportive, fulfilling relationships with others? What about your relationship with yourself?

SPIRITUAL This area refers to the care and feeding of your spirit. Do you include activities in your life that make you feel alive and connected to your best self?

As you shift into “work mode” this month, I encourage you to check in with yourself in each of these areas and evaluate how you can improve them. Thinking of things in these terms can help you determine what’s missing when you start feeling a little out of whack—and carefully tending to all four areas can help you achieve greater balance in your life.